It’s not an option whether we can deny ourselves or not. Jesus said to deny ourselves. Matthew 16:24 Then said Jesus unto his disciples,If any man will come after me, let him deny himself, and take up his cross, and follow me. To deny ourselves we put God before our own desires and will.
James was talking about people controlling speaking their opinion and the value of doing so. It has a lot to do with what is working inside our heart. There’s a great wisdom in being able to control the tongue. Everybody will say something wrong, at some time. If you have a humble heart and you realize your error and you will apologize for what you said. James was dealing with saved people who had a lot of strong opinions about a lot of things.
“For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy. And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace.” James 3:16-18
“And not only so, but we glory in tribulations also: knowing that tribulation worketh patience; And patience, experience; and experience, hope: And hope maketh not ashamed; because the love of God is shed abroad in our hearts by the Holy Ghost which is given unto us.” Romans 5:3-5
Experience- some things you can’t learn but by experience. You must put your shoulder to the wheel and work. You will make mistakes. Sometimes you will make big mistakes. It is not easy to understand something you don’t have experience with.
- Taking Responsibility,
- “Righting” our Wrongs,
- Apologies, And,
- Using Wisdom
Making wrongs right is what we want to do, when we get saved.
For it is written, “As I live, saith the Lord, every knee shall bow to me, and every tongue shall confess to God.” Romans 14:11
With no exception, at some time, everyone will confess before the Lord. The blood of Christ was shed here on earth so that we can confess and be forgiven now, not in heaven.
There is wisdom in looking beyond what is on the outside to be able to see the need that is in the life. Jesus left us a wonderful example of how to treat a sinner. He sought out sinners. He went to eat with Zacchaeus. If we totally separate ourselves from sinners, they will not have confidence in us. We must let our life offer them salvation.